Dear Mike Cares, how would you answer this Dear Abby? *case of the cancer complainer

DEAR ABBY: My daughter married her second husband in 2004. Because I was having cancer treatments with all the side effects, I didn't go to her wedding. Fast-forward to 2011. My granddaughter (her daughter) got married two weeks after I had another cancer surgery. I missed that milestone, too, and both of them hold this against me! My daughter told me she would crawl on her belly to go to HER daughter's or granddaughter's wedding.

I have never met my great-granddaughter or my granddaughter's husband, and she hasn't spoken to me in almost 10 years. I don't understand why. Am I wrong to think they are unreasonable, or should I have dragged myself to the weddings anyway? They have never asked how I am doing healthwise, despite the fact I had heart surgery for a double aortic aneurysm and aortic valve replacement two years ago.

My daughter recently told me she has tried very hard to have a relationship with me. I blurted out, "When?" Abby, what's your take? -- KICKED WHEN DOWN IN TEXAS

DEAR KICKED WHEN DOWN IN TEXAS: There is far more going on here than you are reporting. I suspect you have someone playing a violin 24/7 behind you while you move about slowly because of your cancer and heart problems seeking all the empathy the world will give, and everyone is tired of it. I think we both know you could have attended both weddings but chose not to, because you need the spotlight on you and your health issues. If you really want to be in their lives, grab your portable IV, your medical team, and your violinist, and catch a ride on the next Medi-Vac chopper heading to reality.

Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) Email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com