DEAR MIKE CARES: I have a connection with someone very close to my heart, but I'm afraid our relationship isn't healthy. I'M the one who pays our rent. I'M the one who pays for all the food. And I'M the one who has to drive ALL THE TIME -- and, as you know, gas isn't cheap. It upsets me because he also never talks to me. I do like his style. What I love most about him is he is always there to support me. He gives the best hugs! He has beautiful eyes. And I just KNOW he loves

DEAR MIKE CARES: I am a senior woman in great shape. I am active, and I have never had a problem attracting men. Five years ago, I married a man I had known for many years. We used to have a pretty active sex life, but it has been four years since he has touched me in an intimate way. He says he doesn't know why, and that it is due to lack of confidence. I'm afraid that if I don't leave, I'll never know the loving arms of a man around me again. In other ways, we get along fin

DEAR MIKE CARES: My wife's nephew is getting divorced. The process seems to be amicable; there was no cheating or abuse. They have two children. Even though the soon-to-be-ex, "Michelle," has always been welcoming and nice, my wife's family has circled the wagons. They no longer talk to her and have made clear I can't either. I don't think that's right. My wife says to stay out of it and never contact her. I think that's immature. I realize my thoughts don't matter. However,

DEAR MIKE CARES: My 58-year-old husband recently shared a bed in our camper with a 21-year-old family friend. The friend is female. This happened in my absence. He thinks of her as a "daughter," and although I'm not concerned about anything inappropriate happening between them, I still feel it was inappropriate. I expressed my feelings to him and said I didn't want it to happen again, but it did. He still thinks it's perfectly fine, but I do not. What are your thoughts? -- IN

DEAR MIKE CARES: My husband and I (we're both male) have been together since 2007. We moved to Arizona in 2010. Most of our family lives in the Midwest. We have been visiting our families as often as possible, at least every other year. Our son-in-law refuses to let us stay the night in his home when we visit. His excuse is, he doesn't want to have to explain to his two daughters why we sleep in the same bed. (The daughters are 6 and 8.) My husband and I no longer feel comfor

DEAR MIKE CARES: I'm a young gay man with a problem. I met a cute guy, "Mark," with a sweet personality, and the sex has been awesome. We spent two consecutive nights together in a hotel, but two days later he went to church, and he's now convinced that being gay is wrong. Mark still rubs my foot with his under the table while we eat and kisses me on the lips. He tells me he loves me very much, but now I'm getting mixed signals. At night on our dating app, Mark sends nudes of

DEAR MIKE CARES: I'm in my early 30s and have decided to lead a child-free life. I think having a kid in the current state of affairs (rising costs, social injustices, crime, global warming, etc.) is unkind and irresponsible. But I'm worried that I won't have anyone to look after me if (or when) I am immobilized due to age. What are your thoughts? -- WORRIED MILLENNIAL DEAR WORRIED MILLENNIAL: Here are my thoughts Debbie Denial , the only reason you have “decided” to lead a c

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DEAR MIKE CARES: Two years before he met me, my husband of four years did something I feel was morally repugnant: He solicited a prostitute. When he committed this act, he was going through a dark period in his life. He was divorcing a woman who had cheated and left him for another man, raising his young son and dealing with immense feelings of insecurity. He told me all of this while we were dating, and I thought I would eventually get over it. However, almost five years int

DEAR MIKE CARES: I have been with my girlfriend for 25 years. We have never married for various reasons. She is in her 60s, and I am 13 years younger. Our sex life isn't so good anymore. As a matter of fact, it is gone. What can I do as a younger man to make her feel special again? How can I light her fire? We still sleep in the same room, but that's about it. I am not ugly, overweight or unappealing. Is there any hope for at least a slight increase in sex? All of my parts ar

DEAR MIKE CARES: I'm a man who has worked for a large company for many years. I recently became acquainted with a newly hired woman who is beautiful, smart, funny and compassionate. We talk almost daily, and I'm becoming romantically interested in her. From her behavior, she may feel similarly. I'd like to take things to the next level by inviting her to lunch. There is one major issue: I'm in my early 70s; she's in her early 20s. I'm not sure if she's aware of the large age

DEAR MIKE CARES: I am a man whose long-distance boyfriend of one year has a married female best friend. (She's his boss.) She is also a tobacco-addicted narcissist who drinks a lot. They chat on the phone and text for hours every day because, as he puts it, "she can't be alone." I think she uses him to compensate for her insecurities. I also think she's a bad influence on him. We see each other only every other week because of the physical distance between us, and then only f

DEAR MIKE CARES: About eight months ago, I stumbled on my husband watching online porn. He admitted to habitual use but said it was just a stress reliever and he would stop viewing it. Meanwhile, I am plagued by feelings of not being enough for him, mainly before or during sex but also at random times of the day and night. I am a small-breasted woman, and I can't stop thinking that he has seen beautiful bodies that are much more of a turn-on than mine. I am ashamed of how I l

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