Dear Mike Cares, what advice do you have for this chronically clueless sister?

DEAR MIKE CARES: My brother lost his wife of 30-plus years to COVID. Because we live several states apart and I have significant chronic health issues of my own, I haven't been able to spend as much time with him as I would like. I call often just to check in, but wish I could do more to help him through his sorrow. The first anniversary of her death is approaching, and I'm uncertain how to handle it. Any advice is deeply appreciated. -- CHECKING IN THE EAST

DEAR CHECKIG IN THE EAST: Sorrow? Be advised some men consider losing a spouse after 30 years to be the best thing that ever happened to them. You have heard the expression “I got a 300 pound monkey on my back,” that is guy-code for a wife of more than 20 years.  I trust the best thing for your brother is to leave him alone on his one year anniversary and let him celebrate privately by sitting back in his Lazy Boy, spilling chips on the floor, farting, scratching his balls, and enjoying both the silence of her absence and the sound of his 20 year old call girl asking him if he wants another beer. Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) For more honest advice, email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com