Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give this Enabling Enabler? *case of the colander killer.

DEAR MIKE CARES: When my husband, "Wayne," and I were dating 15 years ago, he would occasionally get angry and stalk off or bust a bag of chips, but after I gave him time alone, he'd be back like nothing happened. He always said that episodes such as this were something he was "working on." After we had children, the incidents continued occasionally. I thought it was because he worked hard, so as a stay-at-home-mom, I just gulped, gave him his space, and he would eventually get back to normal. I continued walking on eggshells and tried diligently to not make him angry again. Embarrassingly, my son's preschool teacher asked one time if everything was OK because my son mentioned that his daddy yelled at his mommy a lot. Wayne lost his job six months ago and has chosen not to work since then. He doesn't want to work for "the man" anymore, and his angry outbursts have increased. He has destroyed multiple items in our home (the trash can, our cooktop and a colander) in his anger. Our kids are older now and witness these events, and I can no longer continue to live in this environment. He's setting a terrible example and I hate hiding out in the bedroom. I recently got a job to help with family finances, but I'm not sure I can focus with all this going on at home. I've suggested marriage counseling multiple times, but he ignores me. What do you suggest I do? -- CAN'T TAKE IT IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CAN’T TAKE IT IN CALIFORNIA: If this has been going on for more than 15 years, I am here to tell you it is your fault it continues to this day, it’s called enabling. Same thing applies to his volunteered unemployment activities. The only prudent way to stop your fucktard husband’s anger problems is making him go bye-bye* you can plunge a knife into his chest (below the breastbone) while he sleeps or you can poison him slowly by adding a fecal-based bacteria to his morning coffee.  Forget counseling they will want him to evaluate his actions and come up with some faggoty plan to control his outbursts, but that won’t work, it will probably just make him angrier. I’m sticking with my original advice, get rid of him!  *Prior to taking any action do check with an attorney regarding California’s mariticide laws.  Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) Email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com