Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give this ungrateful ball-buster?

DEAR MIKE CARES: My husband and I have been married for 10 years, together for 12. We have no children together, but I have four from a previous marriage. Two are grown and have moved out; two are still home and in high school. When we got together, my husband stepped right up and became a wonderful stepdad. He has always been a provider, a listener, an advice giver, friend, etc. He is the epitome of a great dad and husband. My family loves him, and I love him with my whole heart. There is just one small problem that has recurred throughout our marriage. Abby, he told me several years ago that he had stopped smoking marijuana, yet many times over the years I have caught him sneaking around to do it. If I ask him about it, he lies to my face and insists that no, he doesn't. I don't ask unless I have seen it or have found some somewhere. We live in a state where recreational use is legal, so it's not the smoking that really bothers me -- it's the lying. I don't partake, so I guess I don't understand, but how can I get him to see that I need him to be honest with me? I can't accept being lied to, especially over something so stupid. -- MIFFED IN MICHIGAN

DEAR MIFFED IN MICHIGAN: “He is the epitome of a great dad and husband. My family loves him, and I love him with my whole heart.” Just not good enough for an uptight, clueless, never satisfied, ball-busting beaver of a wife.  Since it’s “so stupid” why do you bother the poor bastard, just let him smoke his weed and live in his well-earned fantasy life that doesn’t include an uptight, clueless, never satisfied, ball-busting beaver of a wife? You’re the reason the man cave and alcoholism were invented. How’s that for honesty?  Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) Email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com