Dear Mike Cares, what advice would you give to this "husband?" *case of the lonely girly-man.

DEAR MIKE CARES: I'm in a sexless 25-year marriage. It was not always this way, but any intimacy has been over for more than a decade. My wife's libido has waned, which I understand. What she does do is continually bring up issues about me from years ago as if they were yesterday. I have my faults, like lack of communication and shutting down, which I have objectively thought about a great deal and tried to make things right. I'm not violent, I don't use drugs or abuse alcohol. She remains adamant in her distrust of me and punishes me by withholding all forms of intimacy. We attended marriage counseling, where I listened to her and acknowledged my issues for redress. She, on the other hand, justifies her actions and behaviors. She has her own failings but doesn't want to hear how much her actions have hurt me. She also didn't listen to the counselor and will not hold herself accountable.

I feel so lonely. She thinks a lack of intimacy is fine for a marriage, and this is frustrating to me. I have brought this up to her numerous times, but she will not be moved. I could use your counsel on this. -- LONELY MAN IN GEORGIA

DEAR LONELY MAN IN GEORGIA: Your wife bringing up things from the past in order to start an argument, using lack of sex as a weapon, and denying all her faults in front of the counselor sounds like a typical wife. And you sound like a typical little bitch of a husband, a guy that lets his wife wear the pants in the family and controls when they come off.  My advice is to tuck up your mangina, get some booze, and head out to pick up the first drunken bar whore you can find that doesn’t laugh in your face when you tell them you “feel so lonely.” When your wife asks you where you have been simply reply, get me the remote, fix me a drink, and shut the fuck up until further notice.  Good Luck and Keep in Touch! Dear Mike Cares is also on X, Instagram and Facebook (whatever they are.) Email me your stupid questions at DearMikeCares@gmail.com